So, let's say that you finally join the ranks of fellow Twitter people after thinking about it for a long time. At some point you are talking with a certain someone in your life and they remark that they twittered for about five seconds once upon a time. Hmph. It feels kind of weird that they never told you, but whatever, right? You stew on it off and on because you're hormonal and why the fuck would they not tell you about it?
Then you are looking at Twitter and trying to find if a certain person twitters when you come across the other person in that person's twitter feed. Fuck this is becoming a pain in the ass to understand, huh. Let me spell it out clearly:
Oh, I forgot! He has also started a blog before without mentioning it to me. I didn't find out until he commented on my blog under that name accidentally and I said "WTF?" He said that he wanted to determine whether he would stick with it before telling me. I don't know if he stuck with it. I don't keep tabs on things like that because I feel like he should tell me if he wants me to know. But he should want me to know, right? Being the wife and all? I'm cranky, can you tell?
Then you are looking at Twitter and trying to find if a certain person twitters when you come across the other person in that person's twitter feed. Fuck this is becoming a pain in the ass to understand, huh. Let me spell it out clearly:
- Teddy Bear was on twitter.
- I was looking for the wife of one of TB's friends and found TB's twitter URL.
- Apparently he twittered in January, April, and May of this year.
Oh, I forgot! He has also started a blog before without mentioning it to me. I didn't find out until he commented on my blog under that name accidentally and I said "WTF?" He said that he wanted to determine whether he would stick with it before telling me. I don't know if he stuck with it. I don't keep tabs on things like that because I feel like he should tell me if he wants me to know. But he should want me to know, right? Being the wife and all? I'm cranky, can you tell?
Labels: Teddy Bear, WTF
posted by Sam at
1:21 AM
14 Comments:
Oh, totally not just hormones. I would be pissed too. But I can be a bit unreasonable at times. So meh.
Sam,
You aren't around when TB gets to talking with his male friends about some girl's thong, or about TLP, or about ..
Twitter and blogging are mostly about *habitual behavior*. Addictive behavior. Some people can wander into a bar, spot some sleazy-looking slut with a nice smile, drink a beer, and leave without ever thinking of the incident again. Others can't resist staring at the lady and fantasizing for hours (or 'til they annoy the girl). Or can't walk away from the bar until last call.
You will never be party of everything TB dabbles in, or tries but doesn't get 'hooked'.
Especially when he is aware that most of what happens around you *might* turn into a blog post.
He may just be keeping his head down, trying to duck the dreaded "Blog Post Fodder" moments in life.
Compare five (5) seconds, to the time you spend blogging each weak. Now compare five (5) hours over a couple of quarters of a year, against the time you spend blogging and browsing in a month. Now compare the size of .. um, no, that might be unfair, and gets into the reason girls typically have a problem with depth perception due to the inaccuracies stated over the centuries about the size of .. ahem. Whatver. Anyway, his *measure* of time may be off, but the proportion of time and effort he spent is likely subjective (how he recalls the experience) rather than accurate (the effort you observed).
Consider this. Perhaps you notice that an administrative assistant at his work is young, pretty, not pregnant, and wears bulging, low cut blouses. And all TB notices is that she is courteous, prompt, and doesn't make mistakes. It doesn't do anyone any good to dwell on her pert figure. Or on his harmless online explorations.
Now, if he signed up with FreeNetPass.com and AdultBouncer.com and was hosting lesbian, gay, and bondage websites, and had a hidden cam in your bedroom, I would surely want to know where the revenues were going. um, I mean, I would want him to explain things.
Would you explain to TB (as opposed to getting feedback and ideas) if you were thinking of changing the theme on Sams's Stories? Might he be disappointed (or relieved) to be left out of the process?
Accept that his Twitter and blog starts were brain farts. Let the air clear, and go on.
But keep an eye on him. He might be getting shifty and slippery and .. guy-like.
I'd be annoyed. I think putting yourself on the internet is a big deal and if you aren't telling me, there's something you don't want me to know. Want I should break his knee caps for you?
I have serious issues and thoughts on this. no, i'm serious. nothing funny to say about it. I'm not even going to publicly explain my thoughts.
however, you are not being hormonal at all.
Perfectly within your rights to think and feel this way, especially when twittering and blogging are such a big part of you and your life.
Just let him read this post. He'll get it.
i agree with bradk...
sure, it would have been interesting to know about it...and it would have been interesting to know whats in his brain that he may or may not share with you...and it would have been interesting to hear things from his perspective...but he didnt stick with it...who cares...
T is on a chat forum thing about cars...the guys on there talk about everything though...i only know about this because i have seen him on it...he never told me that he was on it... *shrug* does it affect how he deals with his family? nope...does it affect how he deal with me? nope...does he deserve a place where he can bitch and moan about life and women and drama? yep...
talk to him about it...let him know what about it bothers you...and realize that your hormones could be playing a part in this...
hugs and love
peace...
So my first instinct would be that yes it would bother me but since I don't have a lot of opposite sex relationship experience I don't know really how I would react. That said after looking at other peoples comments, that brad person seems to be logical in his explanations.
I say go with Brad's thoughts. You are a little emotional right now, and vulnerable, and seems like a big transgression on his part right now, but since he doesn't seem to exhibit any other behavior that would upset you, why get upset about this?
BTW, I only snoop into things Fodge is doing when I am currently doing things online that I shouldn't. Not saying that you are doing this, but I only seem to look for guilty behavior when I'm in the thick of it...
I say go with Brad's thoughts. You are a little emotional right now, and vulnerable, and seems like a big transgression on his part right now, but since he doesn't seem to exhibit any other behavior that would upset you, why get upset about this?
BTW, I only snoop into things Fodge is doing when I am currently doing things online that I shouldn't. Not saying that you are doing this, but I only seem to look for guilty behavior when I'm in the thick of it...
first off, when i did this, it was BEFORE she started twittering. i've tried blogging/twittering/live journaling before, and met with horrible failure. basically i don't find time for it, and it becomes more of a hassle and a burden than an enjoyable release.
now, it turns to crap, but the only thing worse is to add nagging wife to it. so i created a blog, posted a "i'm thinking about blogging post" and promptly forgot about it for 6 months until some random login error had it pop up on her comments. it's a non issue in my mind -- i didn't even have a real first post.
twitter i did a little bit of (like 20 posts), but it was all geeky news and hey check out this video game and a little bitching -- all of which she gets plenty of from me every day of the week. i fell flat on that as well, and just didn't see the joy.
now, if this was something i kept up with and spent a part of my life with, she'd know about it. maybe i should have mentioned it to her, maybe i shouldn't have.
i don't mention to her everytime i start writing the outline to a new d&d campaign i'm considering running, or about every forum i join and lurke on to glean information.
but my ongoing campaigns and forums i visit regularly she knows about ... so it's somewhat of a gray area for me, but not a huge inconceivable wrong. meh.
I think your concerns about this are trivial.
There are some things that are just best not known. It's not like he cheated on you.
For example, what if your partner decides to ask you how many lovers you've had? Do they really need to know?
I say you should punish him by making him wear assless chaps and spanking him. Is he wrong? I couldn't say. But I could say you shouldn't pass up this opportunity to call him 'the gimp' and make him bite a red rubber ball for a few hours. Have fun!
ugh. i dunno. my head's all a-twitter after reading that. i am not even so sure i know what twitter is.
I can't say much since no one I know IRL knows about my blog. Hubby included.
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