H1, H2 and more
First, a further explanation:
Many of you suggested searching records in the state where my grandfather was born/died/etc. The problem with that is I have no idea where that is...
A weird thing happened last week and is continuing... H1 is in town. I haven't seen him in about 4 years, and although Chicken sees him about twice a year and I talk to him on the phone regularly, it was strange seeing him again. Chicken was able to spend Easter weekend alone with him, which was great because when Chicken visits he has to share his dad's attention with step-sisters and a toddler half-sister and occasionally a step-brother. Chicken is milking the opportunity for all it's worth, and comes home with treats and tales of zoo visits, bowling, and missed bed times. He's a happy camper. I wish his dad lived closer than the east coast!
H2 called me today about his 2005 taxes. Did it surprise me that he was filing his taxes on the last damn day? Fuck no. He wanted my Social Security number to claim the alimony that he paid me last year. Except...um... he didn't pay me alimony, the fucker. The back story is long and boring, the Reader's Digest version involves:
H1 H2 complained to me that he couldn't take advantage of higher education credits this year, or interest paid on student loans. He complained about the amount of taxes he is paying, and about the money he gave me. He complained about the amount of taxes he guesses that I paid last year. Oh, did I mention that he makes six figures? Did I mention that he lives in corporate housing which means his monthly expenses are negligible? Did I mention that I live on 1/4 of what he makes while supporting a child? I think he's complaining to the wrong fucking person. Really. How sad the poor little guy doesn't qualify for tax breaks meant for people that don't make a shitload of money. Days like today remind me why I filed for divorce. He's the same person that claimed his Hispanic heritage to help get into a better college. He's 1/4 hispanic, born and raised with a golden spoon in his mouth and no more hispanic heritage than Dude. Dumb ass.
I sent him an email tonight, letting him know that I'd be happy to let him start paying me alimony this year so he can claim it on his taxes. Think he'll go for it?
Many of you suggested searching records in the state where my grandfather was born/died/etc. The problem with that is I have no idea where that is...
A weird thing happened last week and is continuing... H1 is in town. I haven't seen him in about 4 years, and although Chicken sees him about twice a year and I talk to him on the phone regularly, it was strange seeing him again. Chicken was able to spend Easter weekend alone with him, which was great because when Chicken visits he has to share his dad's attention with step-sisters and a toddler half-sister and occasionally a step-brother. Chicken is milking the opportunity for all it's worth, and comes home with treats and tales of zoo visits, bowling, and missed bed times. He's a happy camper. I wish his dad lived closer than the east coast!
H2 called me today about his 2005 taxes. Did it surprise me that he was filing his taxes on the last damn day? Fuck no. He wanted my Social Security number to claim the alimony that he paid me last year. Except...um... he didn't pay me alimony, the fucker. The back story is long and boring, the Reader's Digest version involves:
- One paralegal (mine)
- One attorney (his)
- One visit to the courthouse
- One $1500 payment which was stipulated by the attorney (and documented) as NOT claimable as alimony at tax time by H1
- One car paid off (there wasn't much owed on it)
- One car title transferred to me (it was my car dammit)
I sent him an email tonight, letting him know that I'd be happy to let him start paying me alimony this year so he can claim it on his taxes. Think he'll go for it?
posted by Sam at
9:46 PM
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Yeah...I can relate. I remember years ago, I hadn't heard from The Ex in four years. Four years...no child support, no visits, no phone calls, no cards for our daughter...nada. I would take her to see his parents every now and then when they called to request a visit...but never heard a word from him. Then one day, I got a similar call about how he needed her SS# so he could "claim" her on his taxes. Um...yeah...I jumped right on that one for him. Losers.
Yeah, I was going to comment about H2, but I think you summed it up well with "Dumb ass".
Yay for Chicken for taking advantage of not having to share his Dad for the moment! :)
Hmmm, he sounds like a gem of a guy. I don't have a lot of sympathy for him either, given the fact that I make very few figures.
Tell H1 to suck it up and be happy he has such an astounding child.
Tell H2 to fucking call me someday, it'd be nice to hear from him. I promise he will know nothing of your online presence.
You should call me too. I'm going to continue to nag you until I hear your sweet voice.
I think thats a wonderful idea and Im sure that he will be happy for the opportunity to give a bit back.
Dumb ass.
you need to kick him in the head. such an idiot.
Good for you. However, it might be worth forfeiting the money to get him out of your life for good!
re: grandpa. when you search the census, at least in the database i've used, it will break it down for you like this:
For the 1930 U.S. Census, these matches came up:
8 records for Smith in Missouri
17 records for Smith is Florida
or whatever. so it helps if you know the name of his relatives, that way you can spot which one he is. even knowing which states he's lived in (at any point in time) will help. example: let's say you KNOW he lived in Ohio around 1950. so check out the 1950 census, find your branch of the fam, take notes on his relatives' names and birthyears, and work backwards. people's parents are always listed. i hope that makes sense. that's what i did.
re: H1 and H2. i am confused....so, H1 is cool (but a spoiled rich man) and H2 is trying to say he has paid you alimony yet has not? and H2 is a procrastinator? am i right?
in either case, it sounds like you are better off!
Geez!!! I have an ex very similar to yours. I get reminded periodically why I am no longer with him. My ex also makes 6 figures and I work as a bookseller at Big Bookstore, but yet he feels like he doesn't owe me anything.
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